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Disappointment is Your Friend
Transforming your relationship to the feeling nobody wants.
I once worked with a lady who’d been robbed fourteen times.
She’d been a bank teller for forty years, and in that time, someone had threatened her life about once every three.
When I asked if she’d ever considered changing careers, she said, “Not really, I don’t know how to do anything else.”
She was a smart, kind, and capable person. Yet something held her back from changing. She feared she couldn’t do anything else, and if she tried, it would just lead to failure and disappointment.
She’d literally rather risk getting robbed than risk disappointment.
That fear causes more problems than you realize.
The Problem With Disappointment
Nobody likes to get disappointed because it’s a generally unpleasant feeling. But our fear of disappointment creates a greater risk.
When you disappointment, you stop taking risks altogether. At the very least you try to minimize our hope that things will work out. How?
By minimizing your commitment level.
When you don’t fully commit, you don’t have to face massive disappointment. It feels safe…
